Now let’s talk about what I call “recreational” worry.
A question came to me recently and it was all about worry. Worrying is not 100% helpful in our journey with finding and choosing the right love. I am sure that’s not a surprise. I noticed that many worry a lot and aren’t aware of it, and it creates a lot of frustration, stress, and sometimes it also creates a space of “freeze” or immobilization that makes it hard to see possibilities for something better.
Worrying keeps you away from being able to access more powerful steps, especially in LOVE.
What keeps us from the connection is when we’re going into stress mode. Along with the stories, the fear, and the insecurity and the doubt.
When these stress cycles are running in your system, it creates unconscious energy of protection which means you aren’t available for connection. But noticing and being aware of that means you have an opportunity to change this.
I also noticed for myself, how much I misidentified worry as caring. Like “Okay, I’m just worried about you”, “I’m just worried about this.” It’s an energy that is commonly misidentified as caring for something or someone which it is NOT.
How many of you have used worry as a caring?
Notice how it feels in your body. Even just me talking about it? I feel it. Moms like to do this! Right?! How many ways are we mimicking our family members’ ways of being? Are you mimicking the behavior of your mom or someone else because you learned that this is what it looks like to care? And notice how this “recreational” worry perpetuates low-grade stress in your world, keeping you from being your authentic self.
Sense and perceive all of the places and spaces you may use “worry” as a recreational tool that keeps you from choosing something more powerful? And you don’t even have to come up with a whole list of times or places, just being aware of how much “worry energy” is in your world.
At present, so many are in “worry stress” levels because of the pandemic. All the different opinions, fears, right/wrong, good/bad, judgments, and politics that are buzzing around the world. It’s up to you to care for your emotional being so that you are not just defaulting to a collective consciousness of fear. When you are in a Super Loved space, a place of awareness, and caring for you, it is being open to being different, being true to you, and being present with yourself and not just “doing worry”.
Choosing LOVE is being aware of that low-grade default stress and making a choice to regulate your system which is the start of the journey of going from protection mode to connection. The more we are aware of how we’re functioning, then the more we start noticing the cues that bring us down into the cycle of separation, and disconnection in fear spirals and worry. This is a powerful practice being in these 30 days of going from Protection to Connection is not for those who are weak at heart. It takes being willing to be committed to making a change. (and it’s fun!) This is definitely stepping into some pretty powerful advanced mastery and territory with yourself. And so having that awareness, what we’re able to use for carrying what we’re already used to fit in what we do you use to match your family.
There is a collective worry happening right now and you don’t have to buy into it, align and agree with that wave of worry. You get to do what’s going to nurture you. Mother Earth does not need us worrying!!! She loves it when we take steps that are nourishing and connected.